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3 Types Of Exercises That Cure Anxiety
by Mike

If you have anxiety, doing exercises greatly helps you cure your anxiety. Even a little exercise will help! Spare 30 minutes a day for 3 to 5 days a week. This will significantly improve your symptoms. Doing exercises everyday will boost your feel-good endorphins, increase mood-enhancing neurotransmitters, relaxes your muscle tension and minimizes your cortisol (stress hormone) levels. Then you can sleep well and become anxiety free. So here are some useful exercises which cure anxiety and put you at ease…

Aerobic Exercise
Curing anxiety or reducing the symptoms is possible with Aerobic exercises. While doing these exercises, you will breathe faster and more deeply. This maximizes the amount of oxygen in your blood. By the way, you can also have a positive mental attitude. When you do Aerobics, you will consume maximum oxyzen. So you can improve your overall physical and psychological well-being.

Breathing Exercises
Breathing exercises will help you a lot curing anxiety. Learn proper breathing techniques at any expert. If you are taking shallow breaths, it means you need more oxygen. So diaphragmatic breathing (breathing from abdomen) will help you. Learn and practice it in sitting a chair or lying on your back. Initially, practice for 5 to 10 minutes for three to four times a day. And then slowly spend more time on doing the exercise. This helps you cure anxiety.

Imagery Exercises
Imagery exercises will help you manage stress and reduce tension throughout your entire body. For example, take a 10-minute trip in your mind to someplace you enjoy. Or you can use the imageries like wax softening and melting, a tight, twisted rope slowly unwinding, and holding a remote control and turning down the volume on your muscle tension etc. To do these imagery exercises, all you need is about ten to fifteen minutes and a quite place where you will not be disturbed.

So exercises will improve your mental, emotional, and physical health. Your resistance to stress will increase and this will cure anxiety.

Taken from: www.healthlifestyleforever.com
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Attracting Love and Kindness Into Your Life

Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house.

Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor...

Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.

Be the living expression of God's kindness;

Kindness in your smile,

Kindness in your warm greeting.

- Mother Teresa

Remind Yourself Everyday To Live

Every day I begin my day by speaking and listening to my personal declaration which serves as an important reminder to stay focused. Stored in my memory, I will repeat it through out the day as needed. It goes:

I am a powerful creator.
I can be, do, and have anything I want.
All I have to do is choose those positive thoughts that make me feel good.
I focus on what I want, what I appreciate, what I am thankful for.
My feelings will guide me to create positive thoughts and release all negativity from my mind.
These positive thoughts will bring more positive thoughts, experiences, and people into my life, transforming my desires into my physical reality.

Taken from Living The secret Everyday: My Secret Workbooks

Make Up Your Mind To Be Happy

Taken from- LIVING THE SECRET EVERYDAY: MY SECRET WORKBOOK

THE ULTIMATE RECIPE

STOP: Trying to find happiness outside yourself by accumulating more things and more money.

START: Being that joyful, happy person inside you now - this will inspire you to do what you need to do to have what you want. Focus on loving and appreciating where you are NOW, which in turn will inspire you to move toward all you want on this journey called life.

PAY ATTENTION TO HOW YOU FEEL: Consciously and deliberately chase opportunities to be happy now and all that you want will be yours. It is the Law of Attraction.

Most people are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be. -Abraham Lincoln

Is Busyness Keeping Joy Away? Stop and Smell The Roses

Keeping Too Busy?
by Alan H. Cohen
Do as much as you can while still keeping your soul intact.
If you start to feel frazzled, testy, or run-down, you have overstepped a crucial line. Most people have some physical symptom that signals them that they are starting to run down their batteries. A sore throat, headache, or hemorrhoid flare-up is the universe's way of alerting you that you are getting stressed. Instead of working harder or overriding the symptom with a drug, step back and regroup. Replenish your spirit and then you are good to go.
If you have to do things that keep you busy, you can remain joyful as you go. Remember to value energy before stuff and connection before manipulation. When you do things in a hurry, you miss the party and undermine what you are trying to accomplish. Your appointment book is a navigational tool, not a vice you clamp around your head and squeeze. You can get everything on your to-do list checked off, but if your soul is gasping for air, your efforts have been for naught. Instead of writing down what you want to do, write down who you want to be and how you want to feel as you do it. What you seek is more spiritual than material. Keep spirit first and you will succeed spiritually and materially.
Many people use busyness as a way to avoid feeling. They do not want to face the issues of their lives, so they generate an endless stream of appointments, errands, and projects to avoid being with themselves. They say they do not have time to deal with their pain because they are too busy, but the very purpose of being so busy is to not deal with the pain. They are not running around; they are running away, which just drives the pain deeper. Blaise Pascal observed, "All of man's problems stem from his inability to sit in a room quietly by himself."
As a culture, we are very much in denial about our addiction to busyness. Denial stands for "Don't Even Notice I Am Lying." We have many 12-step and other support groups to deal with our cultural addictions to drinking, drugs, sex, gambling, and debt; yet we do not have many 12-step groups for workaholics or busyholics, which number far more in the population than any other single group of addicts.
Living at the end of your rope may be typical, but I assure you it is not natural. Yet we accept busyholicism as normal, even respectable. If you were to show up at work drunk every day, you would soon be confronted and either fired or encouraged to get help. But when you work 12 hours a day, whittle your personal life back to a hangnail, and have to paste Post-Its on your hotel room TV screen to remind you what city you are in, no one questions that.
You scurry frantically across town, flooring the gas pedal at yellow lights, amped by intravenous Starbucks, driving with one hand, punching cell phone numbers with the other, and trying to keep the hot Styrofoam cup of triple espresso between your thighs from thwarting your future parenthood. You pride yourself on multitasking and feel like an underachiever if you're not spinning at least three plates at once, checking e-mail on line 1 while toggling between your boss on line 2 and your honey on the cell. Then someone knocks at the door and when you return you forgot who was on which line. But WAIT A MINUTE! (Huff, huff, puff, puff.) Does this really feel good? Is this really how you were born to live? If you did this for the rest of your life, how would you feel when you leave? Is it possible you could actually have a life?
I sat in on a magazine interview with Dr. Stephan Rechtschaffen, CEO of Omega Institute and author of Timeshifting. During the interview he suggested that we might be happier and more successful if we focus on one thing at a time. "But aren't you dangerously influencing people against multitasking?" the reporter asked. My God, I thought, we've come to a point where we have to defend being fully present!
The Chinese written character for the word "busy" is a combination of two other characters: "killing" and "heart." Heart disease, the foremost cause of death in our culture, is just what it says: the heart is not at ease. It is stressed. It is pressured. It is being asked to do more than it is designed to do. Yet heart disease, like all disease, can be prevented or reversed by returning to ease. And what is ease, but living in harmony with your intentions?
Each day set aside some time to do something to feed your soul. Treat yourself according to the style to which you'd like to become accustomed. Rassle with your pooch or curl up with your cat. Make smoldering love in the middle of the afternoon. Buy that new high-definition flat screen TV you've been eying. Dance naked to your favorite CD. Whatever you do, don't settle for a life without luster; then you become just another zit on the complexion of life. When your heart feels full, you will have so much more clarity and presence that you will easily handle the things that are problems now.
This article was excerpted from:
Why Your Llife Sucks by Alan H. Cohen.

Forgiveness: The Key To Finding Joy

Here is an article from one of my favorite people: Louise Hay, Hayhouse Publications
Choosing Forgiveness
by Louise L. Hay
You can never be free of bitterness as long as you continue to think unforgiving thoughts. How can you be happy in this moment if you continue to choose to be angry and resentful? Thoughts of bitterness can't create joy. No matter how justified you feel you are, no matter what "they" did, if you insist on holding on to the past, then you will never be free. Forgiving yourself and others will release you from the prison of the past.
When you feel that you're stuck in some situation, or when your affirmations aren't working, it usually means that there's more forgiveness work to be done. When you don't flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means that you're holding on to a past moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, blame, anger, resentment, or sometimes even a desire for revenge. Each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and come in to the present moment. Only in the present moment can you create your future.
If you're holding on to the past, you can't be in the present. It's only in this "now" moment that your thoughts and words are powerful. So you really don't want to waste your current thoughts by continuing to create your future from the garbage of the past.
When you blame another, you give your own power away because you're placing the responsibility for your feelings on someone else. People in your life may behave in ways that trigger uncomfortable responses in you. However, they didn't get into your mind and create the buttons that have been pushed. Taking responsibility for your own feelings and reactions is mastering your "ability to respond." In other words, you learn to consciously choose rather than simply react.
Forgiveness is a tricky and confusing concept for many people, but know that there's a difference between forgiveness and acceptance. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you condone their behavior! The act of forgiveness takes place in your own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting yourself free from the pain. It's simply an act of releasing yourself from the negative energy that you've chosen to hold on to.
Also, forgiveness doesn't mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes forgiveness means letting go: You forgive that person and then you release them. Taking a stand and setting healthy boundaries is often the most loving thing you can do — not only for yourself but for the other person as well.
No matter what your reasons are for having bitter, unforgiving feelings, you can go beyond them. You have a choice. You can choose to stay stuck and resentful, or you can do yourself a favor by willingly forgiving what happened in the past; letting it go; and then moving on to create a joyous, fulfilling life. You have the freedom to make your life anything you want it to be because you have freedom of choice.
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS: FORGIVENESS
• THE DOOR TO MY HEART OPENS INWARD. I MOVE THROUGH FORGIVENESS TO LOVE.
• TODAY I LISTEN TO MY FEELINGS, AND I AM GENTLE WITH MYSELF. I KNOW THAT ALL OF MY FEELINGS ARE MY FRIENDS.
• THE PAST IS OVER, SO IT HAS NO POWER NOW. THE THOUGHTS OF THIS MOMENT CREATE MY FUTURE.
• IT IS NO FUN BEING A VICTIM. I REFUSE TO BE HELPLESS ANYMORE. I CLAIM MY OWN POWER.
• I GIVE MYSELF THE GIFT OF FREEDOM FROM THE PAST, AND MOVE WITH JOY INTO THE NOW.
• I GET THE HELP I NEED, WHEN I NEED IT, FROM VARIOUS SOURCES. MY SUPPORT SYSTEM IS STRONG AND LOVING.
• THERE IS NO PROBLEM SO BIG OR SO SMALL THAT IT CANNOT BE SOLVED WITH LOVE.
• I AM READY TO BE HEALED. I AM WILLING TO FORGIVE. ALL IS WELL.
• WHEN I MAKE A MISTAKE, I REALIZE THAT IT IS ONLY PART OF THE LEARNING PROCESS.
• I MOVE BEYOND FORGIVENESS TO UNDERSTANDING, AND I HAVE COMPASSION FOR ALL.
• EACH DAY IS A NEW OPPORTUNITY. YESTERDAY IS OVER AND DONE. TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF MY FUTURE.
• I KNOW THAT OLD, NEGATIVE PATTERNS NO LONGER LIMIT ME. I LET THEM GO WITH EASE.
• I AM FORGIVING, LOVING, GENTLE, AND KIND, AND I KNOW THAT LIFE LOVES ME.
• AS I FORGIVE MYSELF, IT BECOMES EASIER TO FORGIVE OTHERS.
• I LOVE AND ACCEPT MY FAMILY MEMBERS EXACTLY AS THEY ARE RIGHT NOW.
This article was excerpted from:
I Can Do It by Louise L. Hay.

The Happiest Place On Earth

The Secret of Vanuatu’s Happiness
By Huw CordeyBBC, South Pacific
The South Pacific country of Vanuatu has been voted the happiest place in the world so what makes its inhabitants such a happy lot?
Jean Pierre John is living the dream. That popular fantasy of owning one’s own island, complete with swaying coconut palms, coral sea and tropical forest, is his for real. On the island called Metoma, in the far north of Vanuatu, Jean Pierre can look around and truly say that he is master of all he surveys. This single fact would put Jean Pierre in an exclusive club, you would think, one made up of billionaire businessmen, royalty and rock stars.
But Jean Pierre is none of these things. In fact, he could not be more different. On Metoma, Jean Pierre and his family live in thatched huts. They have no electricity or running water, no radio or television, and their only mode of transport is a rowing boat, which pretty much limits them to trips to the neighbouring island. On top of that, they have little money and few opportunities to make any.
No money?! Suddenly their island life does not sound all that glamorous. But here’s the thing, the Johns really are happy. This may sound surprising but living on their island they want for nothing.
Local produce :All the family’s food comes from on or around Metoma. Coconuts, yam, and manioc - their staple diet - are all grown on the island and then, of course, there is a sea full of fish to harvest. And if fish protein gets boring, there is always the occasional fruit bat, from a colony that roosts on the island. Indeed, food is so easy to gather that the family appears to have a lot of relaxation time.
When the Johns do have money - perhaps when they sell one of the few cows they own - they will buy soap powder and kerosene for their lamps. But if not, they are just as happy to make do with island solutions - sticks which can be crushed to make soap and coconut oil in place of kerosene. Some useful items are even washed up onto their island - buoys from boats are cut in half to make bowls and old fishing nets are recycled as hammocks.
It may sound like a Robinson Crusoe existence, and in many ways it is, but the Johns are not castaways. They live on Metoma out of choice. It is not as if they have not experienced some of the trappings of a more modern world. Jean Pierre grew up on one of Vanuatu’s larger islands and still makes the occasional visit. His eldest son, Joe, even went to school in the nation’s capital. In fact Joe, a very easy-going 28-year-old, had recently returned to Metoma to live full time and he told me that the only thing he missed was hip hop music, but that it was a small price to pay for living on the island. No money worries;
Jean Pierre had not heard that Vanuatu had been voted happiest country in the world but, when I told him, he nodded in a knowingly happy sort of way.
So what is his secret of happiness?
“Not having to worry about money,” he immediately replies, while picking his nose in an uninhibited way.
If you asked the same question in the UK, you would probably get the same response. The only difference is that, in Jean Pierre’s case, it means not needing any money, rather than having bundles of it.
We can all repeat the mantra “money can’t buy you happiness” until we are blue in the face, but deep down, how many of us in the West really believe it to be true?
But I can see that Jean Pierre’s happiness is more than just a question of money. It also comes from having his family around him, and there is undoubtedly an enormous respect between them.
Absence of materialism
His children - and this includes those of adult age - do anything their father asks, not out of coercion but because they genuinely want to please.
Forget the Waltons, the Johns are the real McCoy: one happy family.
While talking to Jean Pierre, I find myself wondering whether he is the most contented person I have ever met.
But he is keen to know whether I am having a good time on his island too. Every day he asks me if I am happy. When I tell him things are great, his eyes light up and he replies in pidgin, “Oh, tenkyu tumas.”
Whether happiness can truly be measured is a debatable point, but there is no doubt that Metoma - or indeed Vanuatu as a whole - has the ingredients to encourage a greater sense of happiness. The twin pillars of a classically happy life - strong family ties and a general absence of materialism - are common throughout this island nation.
The simple things in life, it seems, really do make you happy.

Secret To a Long Healthy Life: Don't Worry

Happy 100th birthday
By Jennifer Elves, Taber Times, Canada
Wednesday, 28 May 2008

Shinyuki Kunimoto is generally a man of small words but when his grandchildren seek words of wisdom from him, he is never short of words.When Kunimoto, who celebrated his 100th birthday in Taber on the weekend, was asked by his granddaughter Kimberly what he would tell his grandchildren so they would have good lives like him, he said, "don't worry about anything."Kimberly says he has always had an easy-going nature.His ability to look at the bright side and not let anything get him down also came out when his grandson Brenden asked him at his birthday celebration in Taber on Saturday, what it felt like to be 100. Kunimoto told his grandson he doesn't feel any different than he did at 90."He said just not thinking about dying helps a lot because if you think about it you're just going to get depressed, so (he said) just to think positively and take one day at a time," says Kimberly.When asked what the secret is to living a long-healthy life, he says he always slept well, walked every day and had passions such as reading, gardening and fishing."He sleeps well, he always has. I always think, 'gee, I wish I could sleep like him.' He goes to bed around 8:30 p.m. and sleeps right through until the morning," says his wife Hisaye.His daughter Eileen adds he has also always been a healthy eater, partly because he wanted to be healthy and because he enjoys foods like vegetables, rice and fish. Kunimoto gardened all the way up until last year and when he was younger, his family members could find him out in the garden every day. When he reflects on his hobbies and looks over at a trophy in his living room he received for fishing, his eyes light up and he makes a point of reminding his wife, daughter and granddaughter how he was named the senior men's champion at the annual fishing derby in 1990 at 82 years old. He also used to have a baseball-cap collection, which he says was "just for fun."Today, he spends a lot of time relaxing and watching T.V. He says having good things to eat, watching T.V. and doing various things keeps him happy and satisfied.Kunimoto, who is originally from Japan, moved to Vancouver at 21, as the economy in Japan was not good. When in Canada, he sent some money back home to help his parents out. He spent most of his working days as a carpenter. He also worked on the oil rigs and did some construction in his earlier days. He built the house him and his wife have been living in for roughly 46 years, and helped to build W.R. Myers high school. From Vancouver, he moved to Princeton B.C., and stayed there for a few years before moving to Picture Butte, which is where he got married through an arranged marriage to Hisaye.The couple has been married for 62 years and has six children, two of whom live in Taber. Eileen and Bruce reside in Taber, their children Jodene and Ross live in Calgary, Dennis lives in Edmonton and Bob resides in Ottawa. He was 38 when they had their first child."He had us late in his life and yet he raised us with patience, kindness, compassion and with integrity," said Eileen, adding he always worked hard and played later.

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